We are living in the age of technology. People are using computers and the Internet for nearly every aspect of their lives – to manage finances, to search for jobs, to go shopping, and even to find excitement. Internet dating is becoming an increasingly popular method of meeting partners, but be careful while on the Internet.
People feel less pressured when revealing things about themselves on the net. It is almost like having 3 drinks when shielded by the computer. Inhibitions tend to decrease when one is not face to face with a person.
People frankly lie about themselves on the net, not everyone, but enough to cause me concern. People omit details about themselves and can almost adopt a different personality. It is easy to get swept into a fantasy world, because everyone wants so badly to be part of a relationship, so many people fill in the gaps with their imagination. In other words, we can and do create the other person in our minds.
Another side-effect of the ease and anonymity of online communication is that individuals may reveal a lot of personal information that they would not disclose in a real-life situation. Since inhibitions go out the window online, it is very easy to disclose very intimate things about yourself very quickly. Back up and get to really know the person with whom you are being intimate.
I believe it is important to exchange pictures, understanding that people frequently look better on the internet. The next step is real phone conversations. Much later on you can meet in person. But, be sure to meet in a safe, public place, and be careful about the amount of personal information you divulge.
My point about internet dating–fall for a real person, not for a fantasy.